For this installment of Care and Feeding, we’ve unearthed inquiries submitted to Slate in 2020. We’ve tasked today’s columnists with providing insights from a contemporary perspective.
On _July 13, 2020_ , “Can’t Teach Everyone” reached out to Dear Prudence:
I’m currently homeschooling my 7-year-old son and 5-year-old daughter, leveraging my education degree. My 12-year-old stepdaughter has moved in with us full-time due to the extended pandemic situation. “Anna,” my stepdaughter’s mother, has requested that we include her two stepdaughters in the homeschooling since they can’t care for them. How do we decline this request while maintaining our co-parenting relationship?
Previously, Prudence responded:
It’s a challenging situation, but you’re right to turn down the request. You can respectfully decline, citing your limitations in time and resources, without feeling guilty.
Advice from the future:
Homeschooling three children is already demanding, let alone five, especially with varying academic levels. Politely explain that you lack the capacity to teach all the children. If the stepdaughters can attend their school remotely, consider allowing them to join, with clear behavior expectations. Prioritize your family’s well-being.
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On _Aug. 9, 2020_ , “Blinded by Love” sought advice from Care and Feeding:
As I’m about to have my first baby, I’m struggling with requests from loved ones to meet him. How do I navigate this while ensuring my baby’s safety and respecting others’ feelings?
Previously, C&F advised:
Set boundaries with compassion. Communicate your concerns graciously, emphasizing the need for safety. Limit interactions to a select few in your pandemic “bubble” and maintain open dialogue with your loved ones.
Future Care and Feeding guidance:
During these uncertain times, prioritize safety by limiting interactions to safeguard your newborn. Communicate openly with loved ones, especially those in high-risk professions. Maintain precautions until it’s safer, ensuring your baby’s well-being.
On March 29, 2020, “A Long Road Ahead” wrote to Care and Feeding:
My anxiety about COVID-19 is overwhelming, especially with my young children at home. How can I manage this anxiety and navigate the pandemic without scaring my kids?
Previously, C&F responded:
It’s natural to feel anxious during these times. Focus on practical steps to stay safe, avoid excessive online searches, and seek professional support to manage your anxiety effectively.
Future Care and Feeding advice:
Practice responsible social distancing, wear masks, and seek therapy to address anxiety. Communicate calmly with your children, assuring them of safety measures. Prioritize mental well-being for yourself and your family.
On May 1, 2020, “Muddled About Mother’s Day” reached out to Care and Feeding:
How do I assess the risk of a Mother’s Day visit during the pandemic when I struggle with anxiety? How can I express my concerns to my mother?
Previously, C&F advised:
Prioritize safety over tradition. Be honest with your mother about the risks and opt for alternative celebrations like virtual gatherings. Protect your loved ones by making informed decisions.
Future Care and Feeding guidance:
Considering the circumstances, avoid in-person visits and opt for safe alternatives like distanced outdoor meetings or virtual celebrations. Communicate openly with your mother, emphasizing safety. Protect your family’s health above all.
—Jamilah