My daughter was 18 months old when I initially purchased a screen for her. This decision was made in preparation for a family trip to Italy, with the intention of keeping our energetic toddler entertained during the flight. It was a straightforward choice.
However, a recent survey conducted by Speech and Language UK revealed that educators are concerned about the potential speech and language delays in young children attributed to excessive screen time.
These findings have ignited a discussion on the appropriate amount of screen time for children, leading some parents to completely eliminate screen exposure in social settings. Nevertheless, for me, incorporating a screen into my parenting routine is a valuable tool.
The Value of Introducing Screen Time in Parenting
When heading out for meals or leisure activities with my partner and our now three-year-old daughter, I always pack coloring books, crayons, Play-Doh, stickers, and, of course, her screen.
Parenthood brings immense joy but also necessitates sacrifices. Social engagements take a back seat, and finding quality “couple time” can be challenging. A screen allows a semblance of normalcy, whether it’s seizing the opportunity to visit a new restaurant or simply enjoying a child-free conversation during a meal.
Without family nearby, arranging childcare for special events like weddings is feasible, but finding a babysitter for casual outings like brunch at a local café is not always practical. Additionally, having child-free friends means we can bring our daughter along, assured that she can engage with her screen if needed.
I don’t limit screen time solely for personal enjoyment; practical situations like travel also warrant its use. Long train journeys to visit relatives or flights can be taxing, making ample entertainment crucial. Limited space during flights makes it challenging to spread out toys and books, making a screen a convenient alternative.
Positive Impact of Screens on My Daughter
I have no apprehensions about my daughter’s social development. She communicates effectively, is bilingual, and readily makes friends at the playground. Despite occasional screen exposure, she thrives socially.
Transitioning away from screen time is smooth; I explain its conclusion, she accepts it, and seamlessly moves on. Considering her spirited nature and typical toddler defiance, this ease of transition is noteworthy.
While I set boundaries to prevent excessive screen use, allowing an hour or so on trains or at restaurants poses no issue. Moderation, as with most aspects of life, is key to managing screen time effectively.
Acknowledging that every child is unique, my perspective is based on raising a three-year-old who is neurotypical and able-bodied. Circumstances may evolve as she grows older, but for now, this approach suits our family dynamic.
If integrating screens into parenting works for you, there’s no need for guilt. Prioritizing convenience and balance is a valid choice.