Founder Aruna Bansal expressed her desire for a supportive community where she and others could avoid feelings of isolation.
The Asian Single Parent Network (ASPN) highlighted the negative impact of lone parenting on the South Asian community in London, citing feelings of isolation and stigma.
Aruna Bansal established ASPN in 2011 following two divorces from arranged marriages, which led her to navigate single parenthood.
“I sought a supportive environment where my daughter and I could feel connected and understood,” she shared.
“I struggled to find someone who truly comprehended my circumstances.”
ASPN, situated in London, a city with more single-parent households than Scotland and Wales combined, aims to provide a welcoming space for single parents to connect.
The network organizes various activities such as ‘walks and talks,’ boat parties, pizza nights, weekend getaways, and group therapy sessions, boasting a large membership across the nation.
Overcoming Family Pressures
Despite data from the Office of National Statistics indicating that South Asians have lower rates of single-parent households compared to other ethnic groups, societal norms within the Asian community can lead to judgment and criticism, particularly towards women who experience marital breakdowns.
Salma Khan, a divorce coach specializing in South Asian relationships, noted the significance of traditional values that prioritize strong family ties, making it challenging for individuals to deviate from these norms without facing scrutiny.
“Women, in particular, bear the brunt of blame when marriages dissolve,” she remarked.
Salma elaborated on how cultural expectations and familial obligations often compel individuals to remain in unhealthy or abusive marriages due to the fear of social repercussions.
Sonia, a woman in her 40s, shared her journey: “It took me 12 years to finalize my divorce, and for eight of those years, I lacked family support.
“Convincing my family to accept my decision was a significant challenge.”
She added, “Breaking free from societal expectations was liberating, and it ultimately led to my happiness.”
Statistics show that South Asians have lower rates of single-parent households compared to other ethnic groups.
Sonia’s 11-year-old son, who participates in ASPN events, expressed his appreciation for the community: “Meeting other children in similar situations is comforting.
“Having friends who understand my experiences is invaluable.”
Coping with Abandonment
Monica Bhutto, 27, recounted the abandonment she faced from her loved ones during her divorce.
“As a single mother, I lacked the support of my family and friends who disapproved of my separation.
“The pressure to reconcile with my ex persists due to societal expectations.”
Joining ASPN and connecting with fellow South Asian single parents provided Monica with solace and inspiration.
“Interacting with other parents has given me the strength to persevere and thrive.”