Regular followers of this column are familiar with the authors’ penchant for exploring parenting experiences and customs from various parts of the world. This interest may stem from the diverse nature of our Roaring Fork community, where a majority of residents hail from different backgrounds. It could also be attributed to the unique atmosphere of living in a somewhat isolated bubble, prompting us to seek alternative perspectives and practices.
In a recent article, we delved into the concept of “hygge” from Scandinavia, which emphasizes embracing comfort, connection, and the enjoyment of the present moment. The positive feedback we received highlighted the community’s appreciation for simple yet profound ways to strengthen familial bonds. However, amidst the hectic pace of family life, these “hygge” moments can sometimes feel out of reach as families juggle schedules, responsibilities, work, school commitments, and fluctuating moods.
Previously, we discussed French schoolchildren who partake in a daily three-course meal, reminiscent of a restaurant experience, using real utensils and plates. These children consume their meals without fuss, a stark contrast to the familiar scene of contemplating hiding vegetables in kids’ favorite dishes. While inspiring, it also serves as a gentle reminder of the differences in culinary habits.
A recent read, “How to Raise a Viking” by British author Helen Russell, sheds light on Danish parenting approaches. Contrary to the stereotypical image of Vikings, this parenting style encourages children to grow up with independence, a spirit of adventure, and fewer restrictions compared to many in our community. It presents an intriguing contrast to the comfort-oriented “hygge” lifestyle.
Danish children enjoy the freedom to explore nature, experience minor risks, and engage in activities that might raise eyebrows elsewhere. This hands-off approach, where children learn through experience and minimal intervention, challenges the prevailing norms of constant supervision and caution.
While the Scandinavian way of life may seem idyllic with its societal welfare systems and balanced personalities, it’s essential to acknowledge that challenges exist even in those regions. By adopting a more relaxed parenting attitude that fosters independence and resilience, we can potentially offer our children valuable life skills and coping mechanisms.
Exploring diverse parenting styles allows us to reevaluate our methods and consider alternative approaches. By observing children in our community taking on responsibilities independently, such as managing their schedules, making decisions, and problem-solving, we recognize the potential for growth and self-sufficiency. Embracing a balance between support and independence, akin to Scandinavian practices, may empower our children to navigate challenges with confidence.