Response op-ed by Danit Schusterman: “The phrase ‘Because I said so’ is no longer effective, especially with this generation. Today’s youth require a more nuanced approach, and we are both privileged and obligated to provide it.” Full Story
With over 25 years of experience as an educator, nearing the completion of my MS in Education and Special Education, along with being a Parenting Coach and a parent to teenagers, I feel compelled to offer my perspective in light of the op-ed titled “The Greatest Difference Between Then and Now.”
In a recent conversation with a young woman named Leah S in her early 20s, I inquired about her thoughts on the characterization of her generation as the ‘ME’ generation and being labeled as entitled.
She responded with a smile, stating, “Indeed, we may be perceived as entitled. Today’s children are more attuned to the belief that they deserve positivity in their lives. This resonates with the era of Moshiach, where our souls are inherently connected to the concept of redemption more than any previous generation. Therefore, when faced with imperfections, we hold onto the belief that perfection is attainable.
“We acknowledge that imperfection is a part of the exile, not the redemption. We consider ourselves the generation of Geula, entitled to a world filled with goodness. While previous generations may not have fully grasped this entitlement, we are determined to manifest it.
“Furthermore, we reject a superficial observance of Yiddishkeit. Merely following traditions without understanding the ‘why’ no longer suffices for us. We seek a genuine and meaningful connection, transcending mere actions. The previous generation, out of fear of losing our heritage, resorted to authoritarian methods, emphasizing compliance over understanding.”
The Rambam emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and moderation in one’s character traits. Parenting can be viewed through the lens of ‘gentle parenting’ versus ‘authoritarian parenting,’ aiming for a balanced approach that sets clear boundaries with empathy and understanding for a generation that craves deeper engagement.
The pivotal shift from the past lies in the transformative power of today’s youth, challenging us to evolve personally to meet their evolving needs. The era of ‘Because I said so’ has passed, paving the way for a more nuanced and empathetic approach to parenting and education.
This generation necessitates more than mere directives; they crave understanding and connection. As parents and educators, we are entrusted with the responsibility to adapt and grow alongside them, fostering a harmonious blend of guidance and compassion.
Instead of pitting tough love against gentle parenting, let us strive for a harmonious balance, embodying the essence of Balanced Parenting, where wisdom guides our actions and decisions.